Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Would you?

The Saint texted me to say he would be home late and could I hold dinner. I said but of course:

1. I had a lunch meeting and ate too much.

2. I have veal chops laid in and have been noodling about with a sauce idea involving red wine and dark cherries.

3.The Saint has been travelling and I've been eating dinner by myself.

Here's the thing. Sunday I fixed crab and avocado with pasta. Last night I grilled some chicken and made a caprese salad. Both nights I ate at the table, no television. The way we've eaten family dinner for twenty years, just without the family.

So tell me, would you go to the trouble to cook and set the table for one?


Swirl Girl said...

I lived on rice and stir fry (and sometimes just rice) before I was married.

so my answer is probably not.

ps- sorry I haven't been around, just too busy to blog

Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

I wouldn't. I'm incredibly lazy when it comes to food prep. I'd have starved in college if it wasn't for yogurt and Wheat Thins. Seriously.

Jen on the Edge said...

I probably would have cooked, but then either eaten at the kitchen island or on the sofa with a good book.

Terry said...

I am the one that was quoted in her latest blog. I am not one of her readers, I am not a frustrated writer as claimed by one of her commenters, and I am not any of the other names given to me on her page. I am her family, her step brother to be more specific. What happened between Jennifer and I started, and should have stayed, personal, and should have stayed off her blog.

My quote was taken out of context, and my point to her was apparently missed. She has a history of posting what I referred to as "reverse inside jokes" in my original message to her. By this, I mean that she posts one liners, and other statements that go unnoticed by her normal reader. These past comments have been very hurtful to the ones "in the know" as to what her true meaning was, and who they were directed towards. What you, the reader have referred to as wit, snark, humor, or whatever, are actually very hurtful, and insulting statements to people she claims to love and care for. She was confronted before on this and her reply was that it was her blog, and she can post whatever she wants to in it. Basically, she feels as if she is allowed to hurt anyone she wants to because she has you, her commenters, as a cheering section for her actions. Yes, she has the freedom of speech to allow her to post these hurtful comments, but that doesn't mean that the receivers of these comments have to turn a blind eye. And these freedoms are not returned in allowing responses to be made in any of her blogs outside of the opinion of her own. This was the source of my comment that was misrepresented on her blog.

She has taken it upon herself to do the immature thing and not allow my reply and apology to be allowed on her site for you to see. I have allowed well over a week for this post to be allowed in, and it has not been. While other posts calling me names and saying what a jerk I am continue to be allowed. Say what you will about me, but allow the other side to be seen as well.

One commenter said that putting others down is what many people do in order to be able to feel better about themselves. This is exactly what Jennifer has done, and continues to do by her behavior. This started by her actually insulting a photograph I had posted of myself on facebook. This angered me, and yes, out of anger I lashed out at her. I have apologized to her for that, but she has apparently not decided to forgive me. Instead, she has removed me as a friend on facebook, and largely ignored me and my attempt to contact her previously. And continues to allow the insults to fly on her blog, while not allowing the other side of the story to be told. The real Jennifer that you readers don't know will insult you to your face, and then get upset with you because you took offense. While if anything even remotely negative is ever said to her, she lashes out and behaves as she is doing now. You the reader may think you the reader knows her very well, I am sorry to say, you only see the small subset she wants you to see. Everything is a competition for her, everything is a race, she HAS to be better than everyone else, I believe she has even acknowledged this on her own site. And she lets the insults fly so she can reaffirm to herself how much better she is than others.

I am sorry it has come to this, but this was obviously the only way the other side of the story was going to be allowed to be seen. I apologize again to Jennifer on lashing out the way I did when her comments hurt me, but I had let so many other comments of hers in the past go. This one was exceptionally hurtful to me, and I lost my cool.

You, the commenter have seen my reply and now know the other side of the story. It is unfortunate that Jennifer has decided to burn this bridge, but there is nothing more I can do.

Jennifer, if you see this and you want to talk, you know how to contact me.

Terry said...

my previous post was a response to your post on jenontheedge.com. The character limit of posting chopped off some info. Sorry if that was not made clear.

Shelley said...

Ummm...well, that was sort of inappropriate, I think.

Anyway, in answer to your question? I would not cook and set the table just for myself, because I am way too lazy. I would probably just make a sandwich or something.

Fannie said...


Perhaps you should start your own blog so as to have place to air your "feelings". You know; a space that is not SOMEONE ELSE'S.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I see Terry has been here as well.

I am having a hard time adjusting to cooking for fewer than 6 people. Even for 4 I feel like why bother?